You’re probably draining other people’s energy right now without even realizing it.
And they’re doing the same to you.
Here’s how to identify which pattern you’re stuck in… and how to stop.
Good morning. I’m at the gym typing this out. Sunny day in LA.
Last day in LA for a little while. Tomorrow Chloe and I head back to the East Coast for some end of the year family time, as I normally do.
This girl I met at Esalen this past week recommended this book to me called The Celestine Prophecy.
And I felt called to reading it, so I started it a couple days ago.
I was instantly hooked.
It was told in a narrative format and I’m generally not used to reading fiction… I usually read nonfiction.
So reading a book that felt like a gripping story was different for me. But yet… this was a true story.
I found myself on Audible getting through about half of it relatively quickly.
It’s about this old manuscript that was discovered in Peru dating back to 600 BC.
It has this secret prophecy that basically lays out what’s going to happen over the next several millennia. Alongside insight on how to free yourself.
And I was reading it just totally amazed at the angles at which it was explaining modern times and what’s happened in the last several thousand years.
There were a few parts of it that felt almost too dramatic for it to be a real-life story.
Like, it almost felt like I was reading a chick-flick novel. A little bit too much romanticization.
And I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but at the moment, I was just totally captivated by the story.
Then I read something that was so insanely dramatic; the author finds himself in kind of a shootout.
There are these people who work for the Peruvian government who don’t want the manuscript to be released because it has all these insights that disrupt the power of the powers that be.
And I decided at that point to Google it and find out if this book is a true story or based on a true story.
Only to find out that it’s actually… the whole time…
Fiction. Lol.
I just started laughing at myself, feeling like a clown.
I have to admit too, I don’t think it’s the first time I’ve read a fiction book or watched a movie and thought it was based on a true story, only to find out someone just totally made everything up.
But that being said, the book still has a lot of truths that I’ve been contemplating.
Truths that are really pretty useful and interesting.
One of the main aspects of the book talks about how everybody has essentially an energy body and an aura.
And if you read the work of Joe Dispenza, you know that they can actually measure people’s energy body that they’re giving off.
You can also see in relationship dynamics when one person is pulling energy from the other and vice versa.
And so that’s pretty fascinating to look at in your own relationships… especially if you’re in a romantic relationship.
Like, is one person pulling energy out of the other?
Are you pulling energy out of other people around you?
The whole idea is, instead of doing that, the best thing to do is to learn how to draw energy from within.
The Four Control Dramas
The book lays out four types of ways that people draw energy from other people.
This should help you identify what type of energy-drawing person you are.
And what type of people you are around… your partner… your boss… friends… parents… etc.
1. The Interrogator
Purpose: Gain power by pointing out what’s wrong with others, why they are behaving “wrong”.
Tactic: Asks probing questions to locate a flaw, then criticizes, making the other self-conscious.
Result: The other person starts monitoring themselves to avoid criticism—energy shifts to the interrogator.
“People who use this means of gaining energy set up a drama of asking questions… with the specific purpose of finding something wrong… This psychic deference gives the interrogator the energy he desires.”
2. The Aloof
Purpose: Gain energy by remaining mysterious.
Tactic: Withholding answers, staying vague, forcing others to lean in and ask questions.
Result: People invest energy trying to understand you.
“You got vague and distant… dodged around him with your aloofness… You remain vague, forcing them to struggle and dig… The longer you keep them mystified, the more energy you receive.”
This one is especially important because Aloof and Interrogator feed each other… they are partner patterns.
3. The Intimidator
Purpose: Gain energy through inflicting fear.
Tactic: Verbal threats, physical dominance, explosive emotions.
Result: People pay attention to survive.
“If someone threatens you, either verbally or physically… you are forced… to pay attention to him.”
The most direct, aggressive version.
4. The Poor Me (Victim)
Purpose: Gain energy by eliciting rescue.
Tactic: Helplessness, suffering, guilt-based attention.
Result: Others send energy out of obligation.
This is the passive counterpart to Intimidator—“feel sorry for me” instead of “fear me.”
Aggressive vs. Passive Dramas
According to the manuscript:
“Everyone manipulates for energy either aggressively… or passively, playing on people’s sympathy or curiosity.”
Passive: Aloof, Poor Me
Aggressive: Interrogator, Intimidator
The passive strategies pull energy. The aggressive strategies push to take energy.
Why This Matters for Self-Study
The text makes a powerful point:
“We write the script as kids… then repeat this scene in adult life… the same kind of events happen to us repeatedly.”
The drama you developed was your best strategy to survive your family system.
Your “control drama” is just the childhood version of you trying to stay safe, seen, and resourced.
Studying Your Own Control Drama
Ask yourself:
1. Which strategy did you use MOST to keep attention, love, or safety?
Silence? Questions? Intensity? Sadness?
2. Which strategy did the parent opposite you use?
Because your drama is reactionary, not random.
3. Does this strategy still serve your evolution—or slow it down?
Aloof slows connection.
Interrogator blocks trust.
Poor Me prevents power.
Intimidator shuts love.
4. Which drama triggers you most in others?
That is often the mirror of your unresolved role.
Now, here’s where I think The Celestine Prophecy misses something important.
The book talks about getting energy from nature and from your externals.
But it didn’t really talk about drawing energy from within.
Which is a lot of what I focus on in my daily meditation and my work with Yogananda… and everything he teaches about connecting to the infinite source.
As the Jews call it, the Ein Sof—the formless, unmanifest source of all creative power.
In meditation, you can connect to that and power yourself up without the need for external anything.
It’s independent of your environment or how much food you eat or whatever.
This is why Jesus said:
“Man does not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of the Father.”
And I think the Word is the creative and life-giving force from the Father.
The Father is the unmanifest.
So yeah, this is just something I’ve been thinking about.
I hope this was useful.
I’ll see you in the next post.
-Arlin
